i really do think when we define ourselves in opposition to something, it does not actually free is from the constraints placed upon us by the thing we oppose. so when queerness, or homosexuality, or transness is defined in some way against straightness, or heterosexuality, or cisness, we reproduce the conditions of our own repression. this is most starkly illustrated by terms like masc and femme, amab and afab, etc becoming synonyms for "male" and "female". by defining ourselves in opposition to the dominant order instead of superseding it we merely reflect it
@CyclopsCaveman This is exactly why I dislike the term “nonbinary.”
@CyclopsCaveman I also feel like it’s problematic for cisfolk like me to identify as AMAB/AFAB. Unless we’re talking about genetics, cisfolk using that terminology feels to me like it undermines the status of transmen/transwomen.
Honestly, I don’t always know how best to be respectful but I feel like if I’m the person highlighting differences then it’s easy for that to come across as negative or othering when I don’t want it to.
@mkb for sure. the ovaries and prostate still come with unique medical challenges, so i think having language to describe that is helpful, i just don't think amab/afab is the way to go. when you get a little more grounded than the philosophical the point ends up shifting just a bit but still winds up in the same place
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